Deep Conversation Starters

Skip the small talk. Use these 500+ questions to explore your partner's mind, past, and dreams.

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Why "Love Maps" Matter

Dr. John Gottman, a leading relationship researcher, coined the term "Love Maps." It means knowing the landscape of your partner's inner world—their history, worries, and hopes. Couples who ask questions regularly have more detailed Love Maps and are better prepared to handle stress together.

How to Play

  • Road Trips: One person reads, the other drives and answers.
  • Date Night: Put phones away (except for this tool) and ask 3 questions each over dinner.
  • The "Prediction" Game: Ask a question, but guess what your partner will say before they answer.

💡 Pro Tip: Follow Up

Don't just accept the first answer. The magic is in the follow-up:
"That's interesting. Tell me more about why you feel that way?"

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Frequently Asked Questions

How do I use these conversation starters?

Select a category (Deep, Fun, Spicy, etc.) and click "Next Question." Take turns answering. There are no right or wrong answers, only connection.

Are these questions suitable for new couples?

Yes! We have a "Fun & Light" category perfect for new relationships. The "Deep" category is better for established couples looking to reconnect.

Can I use this for a road trip?

Absolutely. This tool is mobile-friendly and perfect for long car rides where you want to pass the time with meaningful conversation.