Monthly Relationship Check-In

Healthy couples don't just hope for the best; they plan for it. Generate your agenda for this month's "State of the Union."

How was this past month for you two?

Why Monthly Check-Ins Work

Life gets busy. Resentment builds in the silence. A monthly check-in acts as a pressure release valve. It gives you a safe container to say "Hey, I felt lonely last Tuesday" without starting a fight.

Rules of Engagement

  • No attacking: Use "I" statements ("I felt overwhelmed") not "You" statements ("You were lazy").
  • Phones away: Give this 20 minutes of undivided attention.
  • End with appreciation: Always finish the meeting by saying one thing you love about each other.

📅 Put it in the Calendar

Don't just do this once. Set a recurring event (e.g., "First Sunday of the Month") in your shared calendar right now.

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🗺️ Bucket List Builder Plan your future adventures. 🕊️ Apology Generator Clear the air before checking in.

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Frequently Asked Questions

What is a Relationship Check-In?

A check-in is a dedicated time (usually once a month) where couples discuss the state of their relationship, clear up resentments, and plan for the future.

How often should we do this?

We recommend once a month. It is frequent enough to catch issues before they explode, but rare enough to feel special.

What if we end up fighting?

The goal is listening, not "winning." If tensions rise, use the "Time Out" rule. This tool helps by providing structured questions to keep the conversation on track.